Darkness-Behind cheerful posts

 Imagine yourself going on a trip, and I am sure, you did it faster than the blink of an eye, didn’t you? Okay well, the trip is over and you are back to your home. Now, you gotta share it with your friends, followers, family members, or whoever you wish to…..let me guess the way you’ll do it. Recalling the trip, you will select the best of the pictures and write the best about it. Will you recall the fact that out of 5 days, 2 days were gulped by bad weather or that you missed some of the major viewpoints? you may recall but you wouldn’t share. George herbert Mead, a famous sociologist, talked about two parts of us i.e. ‘I'(real me which is what when I am all alone) and ‘Me'(social me which is what I want to portray myself as) which latter is dominant over former. we will share only those memories which will make our trip look successful, in eyes of everyone, as the ‘me’ part of us generally rules over the ‘I’ part. Most of our problems are subsets of this concept, please understand this, and let me know via comments if you didn’t understand.

There are millions like you, with millions of stories, sharing experiences on social media platforms. Almost 99% of people will share in the exact way, I mentioned above, creating an impression that the trip was very easy/good/fantastic without any hurdles. Here is my point, Life is like that small trip where we experience both good and bad days but we decide to share only good ones (applying the same concept discussed in para 1). I want you to focus on bad days as well because those days matter more, and how? don’t worry, I will explain. I believe that whatever good, we experience, comes from bad experiences. Take the same case: next time whenever you plan a trip, you will ensure to check weather details before you leave, won’t you? Similar is your life, you must always try to learn from bad experiences rather than just crying over them because whatever is gone its gone while whatever coming is yet to come.

If one wishes, s(he) may share both good and bad experiences so that people out there escape the fear of missing out. It may seem from people’s posts that everything is good out there but trust me, it is not what it is. People do have bad days, they cry, make mistakes, feel depressed, and may not like their jobs but they find a solution and keep moving, no matter what. I have had days where I felt confident yet anxious, smiled all day yet miserable inside, worked all day yet not satisfied, ate healthily yet fell ill, and much more…but I chose to understand the process of life rather than cursing it. Trust me, Life doesn’t give you lessons until you aren’t ready to learn. Don’t think that people posting good things are having the best of their lives, NO! they just feel happy (I do) sharing so and it is always our choice to take such posts lightly rather than comparing it with our own lives. Everyone is trying to move up the ladder, let them move the way they want to, you just find your own ladder.

S(he) is fit, s(he) is beautiful, they are happy, and so on…..will continue but you mustn’t take any of it to mess up with your own personality. If you can learn from someone’s post, just learn and scroll it down, don’t overthink. Just imagine the amount of time, you will waste thinking about kinds of stuff that won’t affect an iota of your life. You gotta make the ‘I’ part more powerful than the ‘me’ part to escape such overthinking. You are the driver of your own car and even if it meets an accident, you yourself will have to fill up the insurance forms. Just remember, everybody out there is living a story, of which, they themselves are protagonist and antagonist, time by time. You just have to trust the flow of your story, as Albert Einstein mentioned “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving”, will you?

Now, stop imagining that trip, plan one soon

stay happy and stay healthy

~SRILAKSHMI THATHA